Comments on: Dear Pammy, My cats don’t get along. http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102 understand their nature Wed, 08 Feb 2012 20:52:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Amber http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-12606 Amber Thu, 20 Oct 2011 18:00:26 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-12606 Ok, I had a white cat for a few years. For a few months, I needed a place for us to stay so she stayed with this old lady and her older male cat attacks her all the time. After he died, she became happy that he was gone. Then I got a new apartment and found a kitten, whose a few months old, and all she did was hiss and growl at him for a while. He is a sweetheart, never fights or make trouble. Eventually they got along, played with eachother for a few months. Then our apartment got caught on fire, I snatched both my cats, they were terrified and the sirens weren't helping. I found them a place to stay at the vet for a week. The white one hates vets and the little one was getting netured. They couldnt hold them for long, so we took them back to the old lady's house, and they actually fought, and especailly with the old lady's new kitten, it was maybe 11 weeks old but it still wants to fight as well. I dont understand why they are fighting. I already know that the old lady's kitten is not any different from the last one she had, overspoiled and rotten. but what I dont understand is why my white one is fighting my younger one. i assume a few things- 1. the young smells like the vet, 2. she is back in the house where she was abused by another cat (remember now that the cat is dead) 3. she is tramazied by the fire and situation or 4. she may have been jealous all along. They will be staying at the vet's again tonight and tommorrow I am moving into a new place, and I am worried that they will still fight. I plan on washing the younger one to get the vet smell out of him, but I dont know what else to do but try the same solution i did to make them get along in first place- forcing them in a room with no hiding spaces until they get along. Yes that worked the first time. Ok, I had a white cat for a few years. For a few months, I needed a place for us to stay so she stayed with this old lady and her older male cat attacks her all the time. After he died, she became happy that he was gone. Then I got a new apartment and found a kitten, whose a few months old, and all she did was hiss and growl at him for a while. He is a sweetheart, never fights or make trouble. Eventually they got along, played with eachother for a few months.

Then our apartment got caught on fire, I snatched both my cats, they were terrified and the sirens weren’t helping. I found them a place to stay at the vet for a week. The white one hates vets and the little one was getting netured. They couldnt hold them for long, so we took them back to the old lady’s house, and they actually fought, and especailly with the old lady’s new kitten, it was maybe 11 weeks old but it still wants to fight as well. I dont understand why they are fighting. I already know that the old lady’s kitten is not any different from the last one she had, overspoiled and rotten. but what I dont understand is why my white one is fighting my younger one.

i assume a few things- 1. the young smells like the vet, 2. she is back in the house where she was abused by another cat (remember now that the cat is dead) 3. she is tramazied by the fire and situation or 4. she may have been jealous all along.

They will be staying at the vet’s again tonight and tommorrow I am moving into a new place, and I am worried that they will still fight. I plan on washing the younger one to get the vet smell out of him, but I dont know what else to do but try the same solution i did to make them get along in first place- forcing them in a room with no hiding spaces until they get along. Yes that worked the first time.

]]> By: WereBear http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-4605 WereBear Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:37:46 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-4605 She might not like it at first. But after a while, when she sees you are around a lot and it's just her... I could see her loving it. What a great idea! I would try it. She might not like it at first. But after a while, when she sees you are around a lot and it’s just her… I could see her loving it. What a great idea!

I would try it.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-4603 Michelle Mon, 18 Jan 2010 21:37:03 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-4603 Hi there, I have 3 cats, my first cat sounds much like the one in your story. The 'gamma' shy, hates everyone, stressed. I am not willing to rehome her, she is staying. The issue is I have a 25lb male cat who is harassing her constantly, hes not hurting her, he just wants to play. So I brought home a rough little barn cat for him to play with and it has been a match made in heaven. But that still leaves my original pet in the cold, she has recently become so stressed she attaches herself to me constantly! Purring insanely on my lap, and literally crying when I get up. I have been toying with the idea of bringing her with me to and from my office (I own my own business and wouldn't have to worry about any problems there) it's spacious and has lots of places for her to sleep and play. However, I am concerned that the stress of travel everyday will wear on her.... Which would be worse? Leaving her, or bringing her.... Any suggestions? Hi there,

I have 3 cats, my first cat sounds much like the one in your story. The ‘gamma’ shy, hates everyone, stressed. I am not willing to rehome her, she is staying. The issue is I have a 25lb male cat who is harassing her constantly, hes not hurting her, he just wants to play.
So I brought home a rough little barn cat for him to play with and it has been a match made in heaven. But that still leaves my original pet in the cold, she has recently become so stressed she attaches herself to me constantly! Purring insanely on my lap, and literally crying when I get up.

I have been toying with the idea of bringing her with me to and from my office (I own my own business and wouldn’t have to worry about any problems there) it’s spacious and has lots of places for her to sleep and play. However, I am concerned that the stress of travel everyday will wear on her….

Which would be worse? Leaving her, or bringing her….

Any suggestions?

]]> By: sammie http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3940 sammie Sun, 13 Sep 2009 00:51:59 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3940 I am now trying the squirt bottle with water. And I am trying to give them both attention. Does anyone know if a crosseyed animal has vision problems? During the day she squints her eyes shut very hard, like the sunlight from the day is bothering her. My 2 cats that do not get along fight mostly at night! Weird huh?. I will keep trying the water bottle, it seems to catch their attention now... I am now trying the squirt bottle with water. And I am trying to give them both attention. Does anyone know if a crosseyed animal has vision problems? During the day she squints her eyes shut very hard, like the sunlight from the day is bothering her. My 2 cats that do not get along fight mostly at night! Weird huh?. I will keep trying the water bottle, it seems to catch their attention now…

]]> By: WereBear http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3933 WereBear Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:22:47 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3933 Did you follow <a href="http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/category/multcats/cat-conflict" rel="nofollow">proper introductions</a>? This is crucial with cats past the kitten stage, as they can react badly. Did you follow proper introductions? This is crucial with cats past the kitten stage, as they can react badly.

]]> By: vanessa http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3929 vanessa Thu, 10 Sep 2009 05:48:16 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3929 HELP! i have an older 12 year old female. she;s been with us for three years nd i recently adopted another cat. He's a male and he's a year old. The female constantly hisses and attacks the poor Male. The male is trying to avoidher as much as possible. The female would always chase him and try to fight. How can i stop this? It's been a month and i dont want to get rid of any of them. I love themboth and i am DESPERATE! F.Y.I. They're both spayed and neutered. HELP! i have an older 12 year old female. she;s been with us for three years nd i recently adopted another cat. He’s a male and he’s a year old. The female constantly hisses and attacks the poor Male. The male is trying to avoidher as much as possible. The female would always chase him and try to fight. How can i stop this? It’s been a month and i dont want to get rid of any of them. I love themboth and i am DESPERATE!
F.Y.I. They’re both spayed and neutered.

]]> By: WereBear http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3927 WereBear Thu, 10 Sep 2009 03:02:56 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3927 Some cats have very strong territorial drives, male or female. Maybe your two females are competing for the "same slot." Fuss over them when they can see that both get attention, and maybe put someone in a separate room at night to avoid such tensions? Some cats have very strong territorial drives, male or female. Maybe your two females are competing for the “same slot.” Fuss over them when they can see that both get attention, and maybe put someone in a separate room at night to avoid such tensions?

]]> By: sammie http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3915 sammie Mon, 07 Sep 2009 13:37:59 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3915 I have had over 100 cats that I have rescued and some of them become my pets. Well I had 4 cats ( 2 that go outside and 2 that stay inside ). I inherited a white crosseyed female (snowball) cat from my mom. I brought her home and she is now fighting with my mostly white calico (twinkie), ( orange, black and white ) They both attack each other when they can. Especially in the middle of the night. I am awakened by the screaming cats fighting. It seems that snowball when she goes towards twinkie, she doesnt see her very well. I am saddened by them not getting along. I really do not want to get rid of either of them, but I do not know what to do to make them get along. Twinkie wants to go outside now and I am thinking of letting her. That way she will at least get some joy out of her life.. Any suggestions would greatly be accepted!! I have had over 100 cats that I have rescued and some of them become my pets. Well I had 4 cats ( 2 that go outside and 2 that stay inside ). I inherited a white crosseyed female (snowball) cat from my mom. I brought her home and she is now fighting with my mostly white calico (twinkie), ( orange, black and white ) They both attack each other when they can. Especially in the middle of the night. I am awakened by the screaming cats fighting. It seems that snowball when she goes towards twinkie, she doesnt see her very well. I am saddened by them not getting along. I really do not want to get rid of either of them, but I do not know what to do to make them get along. Twinkie wants to go outside now and I am thinking of letting her. That way she will at least get some joy out of her life..

Any suggestions would greatly be accepted!!

]]> By: WereBear http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3020 WereBear Fri, 22 May 2009 12:36:24 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3020 I'm working on an email for you, Janice. I’m working on an email for you, Janice.

]]> By: Janice Brusoski http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/dear-pammy-my-cats-dont-get-along/102/comment-page-1#comment-3019 Janice Brusoski Fri, 22 May 2009 01:33:14 +0000 http://www.wayofcats.com/blog/?p=102#comment-3019 PLEASE HELP!! We have a female 13 1/2 yr old cat, Chelsea, who is very good but not too friendly with our children or really even with us. She prefers to keep to herself and comes up to my husband, myself or the boys when she wants to be fed. Even when she wants petted, after a few minutes-she turns hisses and swats us and leaves. We ended up taking a young male stray in in March. We trapped and neutered him and he never left us. He is very playful and great with the boys but loves to torment Chelsea. He has chased her so often now she stays in our bedroom and will not leave. If given the chance, he will sneak in and attack her. They fight and for the first time tonight, he scratched and drew blood on her nose. I am not sure what to do with these two.....she has been with us forever and is part of our family. I would hate to have to give up the new cat, he is great with the boys, much more a normal cat, but I cannot have him attack her and banish her to one room!! Any suggestions! Thanks PLEASE HELP!!

We have a female 13 1/2 yr old cat, Chelsea, who is very good but not too friendly with our children or really even with us. She prefers to keep to herself and comes up to my husband, myself or the boys when she wants to be fed. Even when she wants petted, after a few minutes-she turns hisses and swats us and leaves.

We ended up taking a young male stray in in March. We trapped and neutered him and he never left us. He is very playful and great with the boys but loves to torment Chelsea. He has chased her so often now she stays in our bedroom and will not leave. If given the chance, he will sneak in and attack her. They fight and for the first time tonight, he scratched and drew blood on her nose.

I am not sure what to do with these two…..she has been with us forever and is part of our family. I would hate to have to give up the new cat, he is great with the boys, much more a normal cat, but I cannot have him attack her and banish her to one room!!

Any suggestions!

Thanks

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