Most people worry their cat will not accept the new person. And at first, the cat might seem indifferent. But if the new person makes good cat overtures, we can find something unexpected happening.

The cat might seem to like the new person, better.

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We feel miffed. What the heck is this? We’ve been scooping the litter box and cuddling them since they were no bigger than a muffin, and this is the thanks we get?

Relax. It’s a “cat crush.”

It’s a thrilling thing for a cat to find a new friend. They don’t have the chance to do this so often. Between the cat’s slow warmup, and the relative scarcity of new people coming around a lot, once a cat does find a new friend, they revel in it.

It’s a great thing for them to have someone new who will pay attention to them, pet them, and make a fuss over them. After all, don’t we like it?

The best move for us is to make it a threesome. Enjoy how friendly and sweet our cat is! We have done a wonderful job. Agree with the cat that New Person is great! We think so, too.

With the right attitude, we will find that the cat is willing to share their New Person with us. Don’t let jealousy or disappointment spoil this lovely new relationship. Continue to show affection, play, and care for the cat, the same way we always have.

Otherwise, the cat will feel abandoned, and cling all the more closely to the New Person. This will create a bad spiral where there is less love, all around.

As with all new relationships, the heady newness will wear off, and the cat will settle into their own relationship with the New Person, one that can develop into a long lasting, comfortable, and wonderful closeness.

That’s what we want for ourselves, too.

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