The Way of Cats

Whenever we add a new cat to existing cats, the issue of compatibility can be a daunting one. I’ve known many people who would love to get another cat, but worry about acceptance. This is where understanding the cat types and choosing wisely will let us worry less.

I’m very happy about RJ; it seems I picked well. Of course, the Tale of Ordell indicates I don’t always.

The easiest match is Type to Type. Get an Alpha, another Alpha. If we are choosing kittens, we can use their youthful flexibility to move only one step different from our existing cats.

If we have a bunch of quiet Gamma cats who love their routine, throwing a rowdy Alpha kitten into the mix will create more havoc than if we found a mellow, easy-going Beta kitten who loves to make friends. In this way, the new cat’s preferences will be like the other cats and there are points of compatibility for them to share.

Cats will gain confidence about their own lovableness if they see the new cat getting praise and attention for doing the same things they do. The Gamma cat is horrified when the Alpha gets laughter for their antics, because they know they can’t mess with things the way an Alpha can’t help but do. The Alpha cat is sad when the Gamma gets praise for not getting in trouble, because they know it’s hard for them not to play with things.

This creates cat conflict; the new cat’s way of looking at the world is so different our cat doesn’t know how to make overtures that will be accepted.

Cats are like us; they make friends with shared interests and shared outlooks.

Our attitude, expressed sincerely and with a lot of body language, will help this process along. We can be just as astonished as they are that this new cat appeared. “There’s a new cat in there! What will we do? I wonder what this new cat is like?”

We remind the established cats that they wanted a friend. “Will it be someone to play with? We need a new buddy. There isn’t enough cats to play with right now.”

And with a kitten, we can let them make a claim. “You have a kitten! Not many cats are lucky enough to get a kitten! They are so much fun, and they make you look so smart!”

Just like humans, cats want to know that there is no downside to this new relationship. We can help this along by paying even more attention to the established cats, and not being too effusive about the new cat, except in private. When with the other cats, a new cat has enough on their mind without being a focus of your attention, and the established cats want reassurance that the fun new cat does not mean they will be neglected.

The most important thing we humans can do is not rush this new relationship. If things are getting too tense, let the new cat retreat to their space, maybe with help. Do let the new cat be part of joyous cat occasions like extra dinnertime or new toys. Make it fun for everyone!

With proper choosing, and careful maintenance, the new cat will blend into the household and be a wonderful addition. Multiple cats have many advantages. They are playmates, model good behavior for each other, add to our communication efforts, and narrow the “cat gap”: those times when the humans want a cat around and there isn’t one available. Cats do enjoy having others of their own kind around.

Don’t deprive either of you.

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