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Cats & Expecting: The Mother of All Myths

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The biggest old wives’ tales about cats are probably all gathered together under the heading of “Cats and Pregnancy.”

Not the cat’s pregnancy. Their human’s.

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It takes two doctors (Dr. T. Berry Brazelton and Dr. Joshua Sparrow) to give this much wrong-headed advice to pregnant cat owners. Dr. Brazelton is a respected pediatrician, and their books on raising toddlers are popular. I can only conclude this indicates some deep seated anti-cat prejudice on somebody’s part.

They certainly made sure people don’t have to read past the headline to know their take on the subject: Cats are a danger to babies during, after pregnancy. Dear heavens! Babies in danger. Doctors, do tell.

First up, toxoplasmosis. Now, it’s true that women who contract this illness during their pregnancy can pass on the infection to the developing child; that isn’t good. It can lead to serious complications as the child grows; if it is untreated.

However, if the woman has already had toxoplasmosis (and in adults this can be so mild the person doesn’t even know they have had it) the immunity usually lingers in the mother’s body, and this protection is passed on to her child.

How are people exposed to this illness? Cats who eat infected birds or rodents can shed communicable material in their feces; thus the warnings on all the cat litter bags to use gloves or let someone else do the cat litter during pregnancy. But there are many other ways to be exposed to this parasitic illness, such as uncooked meats, unwashed vegetables, or working in contaminated soil.

In this two year Norwegian Study, 10% of pregnant women showed previous exposure in their blood antibodies, and the only infection that resulted in complications for the resulting child was a single, untreated, infection.

So blaming cats seems overblown to me, when vegetables from the farmer’s market or planting a flat of pansies runs the same risks. Cats who have spent their whole lives indoors have less of a chance of picking up this illness than their people who garden.

What does the Center for Disease Control think of cats and pregnant women? Check out their fact page on the subject. They take a much less hysterical approach, especially in this paragraph:

Do I have to give up my cat if I’m pregnant or planning on becoming pregnant?

No. You should follow these helpful tips to reduce your risk of environmental exposure to Toxoplasma.

Gee, the CDC is awfully calm about it. Their recommendations are not that different from Brazelton and Sparrow’s article; precaution is probably a better word to use than danger. That is, unless a writer has another agenda. The real danger is tipped off in the question they use to open the column:

My daughter is pregnant. She lives with three rather large cats that have been the center of her life for many years and are a little spoiled. I’m worried they will be jealous of the new family member and get into the crib with the baby.

Cats may be the issue of the article, but it’s the potential grandmother who has the issues. Spoiled cats are happy cats; happy cats love greeting new family members. I’m sure this isn’t the first time “the cats” have come up between mother and daughter. And now there’s a baby on the way, Grandma has less use for the cats, and wishes to impose those same views on her daughter. Just whose jealousy is at issue here, I wonder?

The mere act of a cat getting into the crib is, of course, fraught with danger. The Drs. agree; here’s how they address her worries:

You are right to be concerned about your daughter’s big cats and her new baby for other reasons as well. Cats lovers may be upset with us for saying so, but because cats attach themselves to their human caregivers, they have been known to be jealous of new babies as if the new arrivals were siblings!

I find something very strange in this statement; at least one of these doctors is a pediatrician, and can’t be completely unacquainted with the concept of sibling jealousy. If siblings are humans, they are taught how to act towards the baby. Dogs, though not mentioned, are certainly attached to their human caregivers, and are as capable of jealousy; and they can be taught how to act towards the baby.

But cats, while being given credit for attachment, apparently only use this power for evil. Because the next sentence is:

Some cats will seek out a baby’s mouth or nose and lie on them to smother the child.

I had to read that sentence twice to make sure they had actually said that. Did two scientists actually say that? And what are they basing this extraordinary statement on? Are there really instances of cats deliberately smothering babies?

According to this Snopes article, a coroner’s jury in 1791 brought forth such a verdict. And they also burned witches, so we probably shouldn’t take them too seriously on this matter.

What about the December 2000 death of a six week old infant? The mother claimed she found the cat sleeping on the baby’s head. But an autopsy indicated it was Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Not the cat.

So the answer, according to our best scholarship, is no, cats don’t deliberately smother babies. There might be instances of cats accidentally smothering babies, somehow, but so can bedding and pillows and blankets. Small infants should always be monitored and their cribs cleared of such items they are too small to free themselves from. In fact, an exhaustive CDC study, dissected here, takes issue with the press report about the study, but does detail the many causes of smothering cases in infants.

And cats are not mentioned once.

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I am happy to report their next column on the subject was about the barrage of mail they got, offering sensible suggestions about merging cats with babies. Read the PDF here. I can sum it up as follows: If they were backpedaling any faster, the chain would come off their bicycle.

A big Way of Cats thank you to the reader who brought this to my attention, and supplied the articles, which I otherwise would not have seen. This is exactly the kind of hysterical over-reaction that puts perfectly lovely cats into shelters when a baby is coming.

It’s not only misinformed, it’s a terrible way to welcome new life. What kind of dynamic is this communicating? Hello, darling child. To welcome you into the world I banished someone else who loved and trusted me.

That’s one heck of an introduction to the family.

    Jealousy anywhere in the family should be dealt with before the baby comes, and then it’s not a problem. See my post, Do cats get jealous?

    I touched on some of these myths with a previous post, Cats and Small Children.

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Do cats get jealous?

Cats can exhibit jealousy. When they do, it has the same roots as when humans show this behavior. It springs from insecurity and lack of confidence.

If we have a cat who tries to hog all our love for themselves, these are usually cats who have had heartbreak or deprivation in their past. Once they conclude that love and caring are in short supply, they will resent any indication that it might be applied elsewhere.

In games theory, this is called zero sum. It is used for finite, unchanging resources, such as a cake. Cutting a bigger slice for you means having a smaller slice for me.

The jealous cat doesn’t know that love doesn’t work that way.

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We certainly want to cure the jealous cat. Many people do not realize the trouble encouraging jealousy can create. They might feel amused by the focus, or flattered by the demonstration of attachment. They think it’s an index of how much the cat loves them.

But they are mistaken.

This isn’t devotion. This isn’t love. This is screaming insecurity.

Jealous cats can also be aggressive and bullying, or shy and fearful. Either way, to make the cat happy, we will not indulge this misconception of theirs.

We must work to show the cat that love is infinite, and will expand to fill any container.

This is not the same as the One Person Cat. These are cats who get what they need from Their Person, but do not object to that person loving other living beings. The jealous cat will drive off others, and display anger when their person shows affection towards others.

Indulging the cat in this dysfunctional behavior by laughing at their displays, teasing them into reactions, and moving our other affection displays out of the cat’s sight only increases the cat’s insecurity.

We are giving them the false information that love is finite. If we give a slice of affection to another, it is taken from them.

What we are doing when we put up with jealousy is reinforcing a warped view of affection. The cat fears the loss of love and thinks they can demand what they see as a limited resource. Only there is never enough love for the insecure.

They demand more and more because the love is never actually touching them and working its reassuring power.

We must redirect this raging anger (for anger is what it is) into a better appreciation of love and caring.

React to the cat’s displays properly. When we love another, and the cat shows aggression or distress, we must continue our attention to the other (the cat does not control us) while verbally assuring the cat that we still love them. We wait for a point when the cat is not showing bad behavior to transfer our attention to them.

And if we have to wait a while, we wait a while. If the cat runs off to sulk, let them. They will have to come up with new ways to gain our affection that does not involve driving away others.

The negative feedback the cat should get is not getting what they want. If the cat makes threatening motions toward the object of our affection, only then should we scold, or even spray some water in their general direction if the cat is actually being aggressive.

We encouraged this situation. Now, knowing better, we must discourage it.

Show the cat loving others does not diminish our love for them. This is the key concept the cat is not getting, and that we encouraged by indulging the jealousy. So continue our favorite ways of showing the cat we love them when we are alone, and initiate these favorite ways when others are around, too.

Alternating our attentions between everyone in the room plants the important notion that they get love, and so do others, and then the love comes back to them.

The cat’s successful campaign to drive away others will be collapsed if we do not let them do that any more.

Good policing is important. An insecure cat might bully others when our back is turned, and while our significant other might report it, our other cats cannot. We should monitor our jealous cat and look for signs they are taking their frustration out on the other cats, such as blocking the way to the litter box, acting up during mealtimes, or driving them away from their favorite spots.

Make a point of announcing that we are taking Insecure Cat into another room for some cuddling. This lets Insecure Cat not feel ignored, and lets the other cats do some business while they are being left alone.

Then, we have set the stage for our return. When Insecure Cat gets out with the others, he or she will feel momentarily secure and confident, and wish to build on that, in their dysfunctional way, by pushing around the other cats. Only now we are there to protect the other cats, scold Insecure Cat for bad behavior, and start our round robin of Everybody Gets Some Love!

By creating actions we can then react to, we have our chance to show what kind of behavior we wish to encourage.

Consider isolation. Sometimes all the cat needs is a few demonstrations that we can love others and them at the same time. Then they “get it.”

But if this dysfunction is deep-seated, it may take longer. If our Insecure Cat cannot take Others, we are doing them a favor by putting them in their own room while we are away from home. This lets the other cats enjoy themselves, and does not let Insecure Cat continue with their bad behavior when we are not there to put a stop to it.

If Insecure Cat feels lonely in their room, good! They are recognizing that they need Others. They can develop the realization that they could get attention and affection from those Others; if they were out there being a good Cat Citizen.

Upon our return, let Insecure Cat out after we have already greeted and fussed over the good Cat Citizens, or the other people in the house. Insecure Cat gets love in the right time; but they will get it.

As Insecure Cat develops the inner resources to recognize what love really is, they will moderate their behavior, and we can reduce and eliminate their time in isolation. They will learn that love actually grows when it is bestowed.

It is not zero-sum. It is infinite.

There is enough for everybody.

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Kindle Fans: I’m out there

When I got an iPod touch, my cats were less impressed than I was. Sure, there was more room on my lap now, but why was I constantly staring at a little screen, when they were so much more interesting?

But they were happy I was happy.

It led me into the Kindle application, and the joy of instant books. Bam, and the book was on my touch, ready for any long line or doctor’s office waiting room.

Which led me to the realization that I could self publish on Kindle. And I did!

Cat 911, the Kindle versionMy Kindle book, Cat 911, is on Amazon now. This is for cat emergencies; those stubborn cat care problems which drive people to distraction and heartbreak.

Don’t have a Kindle? No problem. Soon, I will also be making Cat 911 available as a general ebook.

This is just the first in what will become a Way of Cats series; training cats, handling multiple cats, and getting affection from cats are all planned ebooks.

And you, my treasured audience, are the ones who made it happen. You made me feel my advice worked for others. Your enthusiasm gave me the confidence to venture forth. Your cats’ happiness was my reward.

But there’s a whole bunch of people who aren’t into blogs; and need cat advice. Maybe you know some of them. So if you would be so kind as to spread the word, I’d be grateful.

Thank you!

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Save Money on Purebred Cats: The Right Way

There can be good reasons to choose a purebred cat. Whether we have life style restrictions and can circumvent them by knowing what kind of cat we will wind up with, or we’ve simply fallen in love with a certain breed, a purebred cat can be a responsible choice.

If we choose responsibly.

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There are animal advocates who are anti-purebred, feeling that with so many animals in shelters needing homes, it’s wrong for people to breed pets for money. But I see nothing wrong with ethical breeders preserving and perpetuating particular kinds of cats.

Not only are there many reasons all cat breeds have their fans, the relative certainty of a purebred can make Cat People out of those who might otherwise feel too apprehensive about acquiring a pet cat.

The only bad thing about purebred cats is when people look for bargains. This keeps the careless breeders in business, and results in serious misery for the cats caught in kitten mill situations, and serious heartbreak when an uninformed bargain hunter pays much more than the ethical breeder’s price tag in vet bills for a kitten with a shortened lifespan or serious mental problems.

For a look at what problems can occur from choosing a genetically damaged cat, see this article. And it describes a success story!

By only getting cats from shelters or ethical breeders, we stop the deliberate breeding of damaged cats.

So we either start a little savings program for our dream kitten, or we consider these alternatives:

Be open to an older cat. Many breeders offer retired show cats or are involved in breed rescue. We can get our dream cat faster and more affordably by adopting a cat who has already been altered and is past the kitten stage.

Good breeders are careful about where they place their cats; and don’t want to see their once-kittens abandoned. So they might have “boomerangs.” These are perfectly lovely cats who became homeless through no fault of their own, and go back to the breeder to be just as carefully placed a second time.

I admit to a level of exasperation with people who want a certain breed; but somehow don’t want to pay the going price for a kitten. I know bargain hunting is an American sport, but we are going to be feeding the cat, giving them medical care, and buying them toys and treats, aren’t we? We’re committing to a certain level of expenditure with any cat.

If we work out the price asked for a pet-quality kitten from one of the more popular, less rare, breeds, and extend it over a 15-year lifespan, we would be paying less than fifty dollars a year for the privilege of getting a healthy purebred kitten. That’s one dinner out, or a pair of shoes, a year, to get a kitten who had prenatal care for mom, was raised in a home, “underfoot,” and had their proper shots and socialization.

If we want to pay less, just go to the shelter. It’s not only cheaper, but more sensible, to opt for hybrid vigor over careless backyard breeding. A restricted gene pool demands care and maintenance. That’s what we are paying for.

Which leads to the other alternative.

Be open to purebred mixes. We can still get a kitten or cat with the purebred traits we want. By going to the shelter and looking for those traits.

I’ve seen Siamese with tabby “points.” I’ve seen Persian mixes with more pronounced noses which will avoid the health problems associated with flat profiles. Our own Reverend Jim may not be a purebred Maine Coon, but he’s close enough for people who meet him to exclaim, “What a lovely Maine Coon!” He acts like one, too, right down to the chirping trill voice.

My father was sitting in a doctor’s waiting room when a little kitten strolled in and started making friends. So Dad went home with a cat who is at least half Abyssinian, with all the personality.

When I say “at least half,” of course I mean that half of the genes came from another breed or breeds of cat. But the cat can wind up expressing most or all of the distinctive traits we look for in a purebred cat. Cats in a litter can wind up looking mostly like mom or dad, and can be remarkably close to the breed we desire.

Go to Petfinder right now. Enter the search options on the left hand side, and put in your zip code. I looked for “Siberian.” That’s a rare breed… but there’s eight of them looking for homes. I tried this month’s featured breed, the Scottish Fold, also fairly rare. There’s pages of them.

How the cat looks is going to determine how the cat acts. If they look like a Siamese, they are going to act a lot like a Siamese. In fact, especially if we are new to this breed, a mix is not necessarily a bad thing at all. Those purebred traits, expressed full strength, can tend towards extremes; we might prefer our Siamese a little less stubborn, or our Abyssinian a tad calmer.

So we aren’t just getting one breed; we get two!

Now that’s a bargain.

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